It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Christmas day is fast approaching. For most, this is a very special time; filled with celebrations, social engagements, lots of food, alcohol, pretty lights and even prettier gifts. For others, it’s somewhat of a nightmare characterized by sadness, loneliness, over commercialization, anxiety and financial woes. The Grinch isn’t the only thing stealing away Christmas… and trying to escape the holiday blues is not as simple as it seems. Sure, there are things you can do improve your reception to Christmas; but first, you’ll need to understand why you’re feeling so blue.
What’s causing your holiday blues?
Sadness is a very personal feeling. Consequently, the cause of someone’s holiday blues will differ from person to person. Some causes may include:
- Financial woes
- Loss or grief
- Stress from work
- Nostalgia from past holidays
- Bad memories from past holidays
- Unrealistic expectations of what the holidays should be like
How to escape the holiday blues.
- Accept that you aren’t feeling the greatest. Definitely don’t pretend that all is well when it’s not.
- Give back/volunteer/help others. Doing something nice for others is a sure way to make you feel better. There are so many persons around the world who need even more help and support than you do. Volunteer, if you can. Donate, if you can. Put a smile on someone’s face. I guarantee that this will warm your heart.
- Count your blessings. There are so many things to be thankful for. Think on them. We often dwell on all the things that aren’t going so well in our lives. Consider keeping a gratitude journal.
- Be financially responsible. Don’t dig yourself into deeper debt trying to compensate for how you may be feeling. Work with what you have. You have more than you think…and who says Christmas has to be expensive, anyway?
- Seek help if you need it. You might need help to get over the Christmas blues. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. We need each other to get through the rough patches sometimes.
- Don’t believe with the hype. The Joneses aren’t as happy as you think. Therefore, trying to keep up with them will only leave you miserable…kinda like chasing after the wind.
- Don’t binge on food and alcohol. As tempting as it may be, stay away from overeating and drinking too much. The problems won’t go anywhere. This is; however, a very temporary fix..a band-aid that must come off and when it does come off, ouch!
- Do something you love. What would make you feel better? Do it! Have fun!
- Create your own traditions. Sure, you may be missing the extra special moments you enjoyed when you were younger or in a different phase of your life. Why not create new special moments? Make some good memories to replace the old ones. You can start your own traditions to pass onto your family.
- Look toward the new year with great optimism! The new year is fast approaching. Consider the new year as a fresh start; a new beginning. Make plans to improve the quality of your life…whatever that means to you.
Do whatever it takes to escape the holiday blues. Therefore, don’t let songs like “What do the lonely do at Christmas” by The Emotions or “Every year, every Christmas” by Luther Vandross be the theme songs of your holidays this Christmas!
I trust that you’ll enjoy the holidays! Until next time my dears.